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Personally I think they both have some major communication problems. He can be way too macho, and controlling. She can be way too cutting 02/28/17 09:19 AM
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verbally and doesn't always "get it". When she says she's the "mom" and should get more (as in time and consideration with the kids), while as a "dad" his time is equally important. You can see he loves those children.
Shame that Isaac falls in the cracks between them, because he loves Javi so much and is not his son. Yet he has shared his brother's dad (Javi) all these years.
While it would be wonderful for Kail to have everything, if she thinks dealing with THREE fathers and their relatives easily and seamlessly she is just crazy. This would not be easy with 2, much less 3.
She is not an island, other people love her children too, and she should never deprive them of their time and love. Soon enough the three children will grow up and I wonder they will feel regarding all of this.
Granted Kail had the kids for many months "by herself" - well, all I have to say is "SO WHAT?". That's life and what it dealt you, now is different, and going forward is different and when you add #3, it will be different again. And when the kids are teenagers it will be different again.
I was thinking - add #3. Isaac wants to go with Lincoln to see Javi, Javi says sure, what is Kail going to do to tell #3 that they can't go anywhere with Javi. Do you break Isaac heart and say you can no longer see Javi?
Do you break up the kids with each one going to visit their father on the same day? Who gets who on any given day?
Geesh, life is hard enough with a committed one mom/dad family - why add more chaos and pain to children's lives.
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